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On a more serious note; learning how to give road head can be great fun, and depending on your location, very romantic. I had a girlfriend say this to me once, and I looked at her questioningly, but after she set the scene, down by the beach one evening, it actually sounded very sweet.

If you are an adventurous couple then giving head in a car can be great fun; just be sure that if you are going to do it in the front seat that you can manoeuvre yourself comfortably around the gear box, and not be in a position where you can move the stick. Romance can turn to horror when you realize the car is rolling backwards down a hill.

Sitting in the back a great position is side by side, with him lifting the leg away from you and resting his foot on one of the front seats, while keeping his other foot firmly on the floor. This way he can turn his body in towards you with his hips raised, making it much easier to work him into your throat without getting too stiff of a neck.

If he sits sideways against one of the back doors and can position one foot on top of the back seats and one on top of the front you have full access to his balls and the base of his shaft; making it one of the most pleasurable positions there is for a man. Just be aware that you will have to work fast, because your neck will get sore and he will become quite uncomfortable if you have to keep up the balancing act for too long. You don’t want to find out how to give a blowjob in a car and have it be a bad memory.

Just be sure that in the excitement of a quickie in the car you don’t forget to focus on the head of the penis, as it is the most sensitive part of him it will make for a far more intense orgasm than just a “go go go!” race to the finish.

What I’ve found can be a lot of fun is seeing how fast you can bring him to climax – then right as he begins to orgasm very gently, but firmly, squeezing then releasing his balls in a rhythmic fashion, a lot like a fast heartbeat.

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Even discovering how to give road head, which sounds like a naughty but forgettable event can be a pleasurable memory for years when it is done properly; just make sure you park somewhere quiet and safe.

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I had just started seeing a man who, unlike previous partners, I saw a real future with, and to be honest the idea of being one of those couples who never engaged in any kind of intimacy besides regular, vanilla, military style sex scared the hell out of me.

One evening while we were having a few drinks and enjoying some horror flick from the 80s, snuggled up on the couch, I noticed he had an erection. Thanks to the wine I was able to control my shyness and tell him straight out, “I want oral sex to be a regular thing for us, but I’m not very confident or experienced. Do you think you could help show me what you like?”

The movie was turned off, and he was so excited he was literally shaking to the point he had some difficultly undoing his pants, (something I can now do with my teeth – a real turn on for him,) but eventually got them off.

When he could tell that I was still slightly unsure, without pushing, he gently guided my head to him and explained how nice it would be if I could just cradle his balls a little bit with my hands while licking and kissing the head of his penis. Within about 40 seconds he was rock hard and letting out small moans; it might sound odd when discussing giving head, but it truly did inspire me. I wanted to be great for him, I was glad he was telling me how to give him amazing head.

After a minute he told me I should lick it all over, to make it “slick”. At first I was just trying to lick every inch, imaging that would be best, but he explained the underside of a man’s penis is more sensitive than the top, so to focus on that. I ran my tongue up and down a few times, pressing a little firmer with each attempt, until he told me, breathlessly, that I was doing “perfect”.

I paused at the head, trying to work out how exactly I was going to get him into my mouth. He told me to hold my lips in a hard “O” shape, as though I was trying to blow a smoke ring, then ease them slowly down his penis, stopping if I felt like I might gag, but trying to get him as far in as possible.

When he reached the back of my throat I gagged a little, but held him where he was. He soothed me, stroking my hair, telling me I could always just stroke him while going back to licking and kicking the tip if I didn’t feel up to this tonight. His casual attitude made me feel very relaxed, and I was actually able to take a few inches into my throat for the first time. Who would have thought that learning how to give a guy good head would be so exhilarating.

At that point the sensation started to get to him, and he began gently moving my head up and down, each time getting easier for me take more into my throat – I was so enthralled by the whole experience that I drove him to orgasm moving my own head up and down at a speed so fast I must have been nothing more than a blonde blur, albeit with hair flying in every direction.

Today we’ve been together for several years, and are as happy as ever – and thanks to a little effort I’m no longer afraid of being the stereotypical prudish with the sex starved husband.

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If I have learned anything from my experiences in this department, it’s that when you are comfortable with your partner and able to ask questions about what they like, that is the best way of learing how to give good head, that giving head can be one of the most exhilarating experiences there is sexually, and of course, provides countless opportunities for quickies in almost any location – but that’s a story for another time.

When giving head a lot of people will start by putting the end of the penis into their mouth, there is nothing wrong with this but for the ultimate blowjob you need to start at the base. Cup your partner’s balls in your hands while running the tip of your tongue gently but firmly up the under side of the penis. Pressing firmly will allow more of your tongue to make contact with it and therefore increase the sensation.

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2. Focus On The Tip

Although the head of the penis should not receive all the attention, it is vital to your partner’s enjoyment that you stimulate it throughout the blowjob – due to the number of nerves here it is the most sensitive part of a man’s entire body. Try flicking your tongue across it for a few moments before placing it in your mouth and massaging it with your tongue.

3. Learn How To Deep Throat

While it may seem a little daunting at first, everyone has the ability to deep throat. The trick is to remain relaxed; breath in deeply a few times through your nose before slowly working your partner’s penis into the back of your mouth. Curve your tongue under it and gradually work it into your throat. If you start to gag just take another deep breath through your nose and pause for a moment before continuing. Once it is in your throat start to move your head up and down, with small movements at first until you get used to the sensation, then speed up. This is a lot like the sensation of sex for a man only you have more control over his pleasure – humming a little bit will cause your throat to vibrate, making for the ultimate pleasurable blowjob.

4. Use Your Hands

If you have yet to master deep throating, or if your partner is too large to fit all the way inside your mouth, you can still give great head. Take the thumb and four finger of your main hand, (the one you write with,) and wrap them around the base of his shaft, pressing firmly against the top of his balls. Squeeze gently every few seconds while you move your head on him, and in between slide your fingers up and down.

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5. Take A Breather

When you are just after a quickie there is no need to stop at all while going down on your partner, but if you think he would enjoy a longer session then you should stop at least one every ten minutes to regulate your breathing. If you do this for about 40 seconds you will be able to continue much more vigorously as you will not feel light headed or short of breath; a one minute break in the middle of a twenty minute blow job wont hurt anyone, and you can always keep him turned on by using your hand, before taking him back into your mouth with renewed enthusiasm!