The first few times I gave head to a partner, if I am honest, I found it thoroughly boring – to the point that I had, literally, found myself wondering what was on TV at the time. I had no desire at all to know how to give a good bolowjob. In fact, it wasn’t until I was in my early twenties that I started to see blowjobs as something that could be incredibly enjoyable, and a lot of fun, for both parties involved.
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I had just started seeing a man who, unlike previous partners, I saw a real future with, and to be honest the idea of being one of those couples who never engaged in any kind of intimacy besides regular, vanilla, military style sex scared the hell out of me.
One evening while we were having a few drinks and enjoying some horror flick from the 80s, snuggled up on the couch, I noticed he had an erection. Thanks to the wine I was able to control my shyness and tell him straight out, “I want oral sex to be a regular thing for us, but I’m not very confident or experienced. Do you think you could help show me what you like?”
The movie was turned off, and he was so excited he was literally shaking to the point he had some difficultly undoing his pants, (something I can now do with my teeth – a real turn on for him,) but eventually got them off.
When he could tell that I was still slightly unsure, without pushing, he gently guided my head to him and explained how nice it would be if I could just cradle his balls a little bit with my hands while licking and kissing the head of his penis. Within about 40 seconds he was rock hard and letting out small moans; it might sound odd when discussing giving head, but it truly did inspire me. I wanted to be great for him, I was glad he was telling me how to give him amazing head.
After a minute he told me I should lick it all over, to make it “slick”. At first I was just trying to lick every inch, imaging that would be best, but he explained the underside of a man’s penis is more sensitive than the top, so to focus on that. I ran my tongue up and down a few times, pressing a little firmer with each attempt, until he told me, breathlessly, that I was doing “perfect”.
I paused at the head, trying to work out how exactly I was going to get him into my mouth. He told me to hold my lips in a hard “O” shape, as though I was trying to blow a smoke ring, then ease them slowly down his penis, stopping if I felt like I might gag, but trying to get him as far in as possible.
When he reached the back of my throat I gagged a little, but held him where he was. He soothed me, stroking my hair, telling me I could always just stroke him while going back to licking and kicking the tip if I didn’t feel up to this tonight. His casual attitude made me feel very relaxed, and I was actually able to take a few inches into my throat for the first time. Who would have thought that learning how to give a guy good head would be so exhilarating.
At that point the sensation started to get to him, and he began gently moving my head up and down, each time getting easier for me take more into my throat – I was so enthralled by the whole experience that I drove him to orgasm moving my own head up and down at a speed so fast I must have been nothing more than a blonde blur, albeit with hair flying in every direction.
Today we’ve been together for several years, and are as happy as ever – and thanks to a little effort I’m no longer afraid of being the stereotypical prudish with the sex starved husband.
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If I have learned anything from my experiences in this department, it’s that when you are comfortable with your partner and able to ask questions about what they like, that is the best way of learing how to give good head, that giving head can be one of the most exhilarating experiences there is sexually, and of course, provides countless opportunities for quickies in almost any location – but that’s a story for another time.
